Receiving a diagnosis of HIV is life altering. Whether it’s a friend, a partner or a family member, their diagnosis will require your understanding, willingness to learn about HIV and your support. Relationships are unique, and the support your loved one needs will differ based on your dynamic. So, how do you determine the best way to support someone living with HIV? Take lead from them when they share their diagnosis with you, and develop your support plan keeping these things in mind:
Listen Carefully
It can take some time before a person diagnosed with HIV is willing to share their diagnosis with their partner, family members or friends. When they are ready to speak with you, put down your phone, turn off the television, pause your playlist, and give them your undivided attention. It is important to let them share as much as they are comfortable doing. If you feel it’s appropriate, ask questions to help them along in the discussion. This is their story to tell – respect the confidential news they have chosen to share with you, and do not share it unless specifically asked to. Give them reassurance that you will continue to be there for them.
Knowledge
To provide support, you will need to know what to expect from HIV. Learn as much as you can about HIV and how it is transmitted. Seek out information on what it’s like to live with the diagnosis, treatments, and the potential for developing AIDS. Knowing how to support your friend or loved one effectively depends on their diagnosed status with the virus. The World Health Organization states there are 4 stages of HIV and they are based on bloodwork results for the CD4+ component. Stage 1 is the onset of detectable infection; Stage 4 is the detection of AIDS. Learn about treatment options for each stage.
Treatment
Many people who hear the diagnosis immediately shut down and may live in denial at first. Beginning a treatment regimen is crucial to living a long and productive life with HIV. You can provide support by helping your loved one adhere to the suggested medical protocol and ensure that medications are taken on a strict schedule. Offer to accompany them, or provide transportation, to doctor’s appointments. Learn about available treatments, and encourage them to participate. HIV is no longer a death sentence. The virus can be controlled, and many patients continue to live their lives working, getting married and having families.
Don’t Change
Your loved one is the same person they’ve always been. It’s important to continue doing things that you both normally enjoy. Hanging out with friends, dining out, whatever your relationship entails – keep things as normal as possible. This will help reduce stress, which is imperative to maintaining their HIV status.
At Infections Managed, we provide treatment options for those who may think they have, or are diagnosed with, HIV/AIDS. Call us at 954-776-9992 to schedule an appointment for a free HIV test. We are here to help.